Some Thoughts on Reporting Sexual Assault (TW for sexual assault/rape)

With regard to current media events, I will say this; the majority of women do not report sexual assault or rape. That doesn’t for a minute mean that it didn’t happen. They may be fearful, ashamed or just choose not to for any number of reasons.
I had my assault reported by the GP at my surgery who treated my injuries. I had the choice to pursue it or not. I thought going to the police was the right thing to do. I thought (naively) my assailant would be convicted. That it might protect other women.
I swear, if I’d had a clue about what reporting would involve, and how after weeks of waiting I’d be told they couldn’t make a strong enough case against him and there would be no charges brought, I would never have bothered.
The GP I saw said I’d obviously been assaulted. The police surgeon said the same. I was undressed, poked and intimately photographed from every conceivable angle. The original detective I spoke to used the phrase, more than once, “We can get him for that!” It was his certainty that encouraged me to pursue the complaint. I gave my evidence in front of a video camera, including being quizzed on what I wore and was made to feel stupid for holding a stress ball during the interview, despite them knowing my mental health is vulnerable.
Heaven forbid I’m ever in the situation where I’m a victim of violent sexual crime again. But would I report it? Absolutely not. The experience was like being violated all over again. And for nothing. Hell would have to freeze over before I’d report again.

Don’t be quick to judge how women respond to violent sexual trauma. It’s rarely clear cut.

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